If you are new to counselling and unsure what to expect, this resource may help: What To Expect in Counselling.
Counselling provides a safe space to explore the challenges of today, or the past, and build skills that empower you to live a life connected to joy, a life with a purpose the resonates for you. Every counsellor has their own way of providing that safe space, and their own frameworks for supporting you on your healing journey. There is no ONE RIGHT WAY for counselling to be, so it is important that you work with a counsellor that does things in a way that resonates with you.
My counselling style is called Person-Centered or “Rogerian” (based on Carl Rogers, and his theories that include providing unconditional positive regard). I am also social justice orientated, which means I actively work on building my capacity to understand the world we live in, through frameworks that recognize marginalization and oppression, privilege and societal ills. I use different skills in different situations, which is often referred to as integrative counselling. For example, I am experienced with using CBT (Cognitive Behaviour Therapy) which explores the link between our own perceptions (thoughts) and our emotions, and that these feed our reaction (behaviours). I am also aware that not every challenge we face in today’s world can be corrected by adjusting our thoughts-there are very real challenges that should not be silenced or minimized by ”fixing our thoughts”. Therefore I also use DBT (Dialectic Behaviour Therapy) skills, Feminist Therapy, Psychological education, Skill Building, Interoception and Tri-phasic trauma therapy frameworks as needed.
I am adept at supporting folk who have experienced childhood trauma, sexual trauma, and neurodivergent masking trauma. I am also skilled at supporting individuals and couples/throuples in building intimacy and connection.
As a consultant I specialize in anti-oppression in the workplace. As a society we have seen that more and more folks are questioning the systems and culture that continue to oppress marginalized communities. Businesses and organizations that are trying to ensure that their workplace culture supports these human rights movements have increasingly been reaching out for workshops for management teams and employees, to ensure that they have the tools they need support this type of social growth and to uplift marginalized populations from within an anti-oppressive framework. For this reason I have worked with organizations such as ASPECC.CA to develop and implement the following training opportunities:
- Supporting LGBTQIA2S+ Employees/Coworkers
- Creating a Safe Space
- Creating a Culture of Consent and Respect at Work
- Is it Sexual Harassment? The Anti-Misogynistic Checklist
- Anti-Oppressive Policies for Businesses
- Kink Aware Professionals
- Creating Space for Diverse Clients
- Workplace anti-oppression audit
Additionally, I have worked the team at ANSWERSociety.org to help develop a workshop for professionals that addresses bias towards consensual sex workers in order to address the stigma that these professionals face when seeking services.
I also provide topical presentations that encourage critical thinking and challenge biases regarding diversity to help create a workplace culture of anti-oppression. Presentations and bookings typically require 2 or more weeks of notice. Please email me directly if your organization has an urgent need. As mentioned, I work with both Alberta Sex Positive Education and Community Centre (ASPECC.ca), and Advocating for Normalizing Sex Work through Education and Resource Supports (answersociety.org), both are nonprofit organizations located in Edmonton. I am one of the Sex Educators of ASPECC, and served previously on the Board of Directors for ANSWERS.
A percentage of all proceeds from the above presentations and workshops go to these nonprofits as part of my commitment to supporting social change that is human rights focused. Please consider donating directly to www.aspecc.ca as well
Neurodiversity Affirming Support
Neurodiversity is amazing and challenging. And I can help! I am neurodiverse myself, with two out of three of my adult children being neurodiverse as well.
When ABA was becoming a thing, I dug in my heels and built a social mentoring program to support EMPOWERMENT rather than conformity. I am a firm supporter of diversity; and I understand the need to be authentic and balancing that need with the need for social supports.
How I can SUPPORT You:
- Self-advocacy: I have years of experience advocating for myself and for marginalized populations. I can help you develop your own advocacy skills and find resources for your own activism.
- Finding Intimacy on the Spectrum: I developed a fun program, Social Skills for Sex and Intimacy, which moves well beyond the typical social skills training to support the development of close relationships, be those friends, friends with benefits, lovers or romantic partners.
- Decoding the NT World: There are times where, in order to be safe or navigate the world without constant barriers, we need to understand how the NT folks think. I can help you decode body language, social behaviors and workplace behaviours so that you can, when you choose, navigate more easily.
- Gender and Sexual Identity: Many of us (neurodiverse people) find that we do not fit into the binary gender boxes of “boy” “girl”, or that we do not experience the same heternormative sex drives as other folks. Some of us are asexual, some of us prefer sexual relationships to romantic ones. I can help you to understand your gender and sexuality, to find supports and resources, and to support you when/if you choose to come out to others.
- Allyship and Social Justice: If you are trying to understand racism, bigotry, misogyny etc, I have workshops and presentations galore for you to explore! I also do one on one coaching to develop self awareness and detangle some of the complex (and tangled) ideas that society has about diversity.
- Employability and Datability: We all are worthy, valuable and deserving of respect and love. I can help you to build your presentation of self, your interactions with others, and your expression of thoughts and emotions. These are important factors that support your success in the workplace and in building your intimate relationships.
I am a certified sex coach, which means that as a life coach I have specialized training in gender, sexuality and sexual health. Coaching is NOT therapy, and cannot be used to diagnose nor treat mental health illness or disorders, including trauma.
As a life coach I have the great privilege of working with singles, couples or throuples/polypods who are striving to empower themselves in their relationships and in their personal lives.
I am a sex positive individual that views diversity in relationships and sexuality as a healthy, natural part of humanity. As a queer person I am gender literate (transwomen are women, transmen are men, nonbinary folks do not owe us androgyny, intersex folks do not owe us binary gender performance). As a white person I am unlearning colonial teachings and continuously work on building my cultural competency.
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I currently offer the following workshops. These can be tailored to fit specific demographics and group needs.
- LGBTQIA Primer
- ADHD 101
- Executive Functioning and Beyond IEP’s
- Sexual Health Classes
- Professional Development: Pronouns and Gender
- Professional Development: SARS and Disabilities
- Sex On The Spectrum (Research Summary)
- Social Skills for Sex and Intimacy
- Consent in Sexual Empowerment
- BDSM and Kink for Newbies
- Ethical Non-monogamy Primer
- Negotiating for Sex, Kink and Play
- Beyond Me Too: Creating a Culture of Consent
- Rope Bondage Artistry for Beginners
- Ethical Power Exchanges
- Sexual Diversity 101
- History of Sexual Assault Law in Canada
- History of Sex Work and The Law in Canada
- Sex Positivity after Abuse
- Me, You, Us, Boundaries and Trust